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The Weight You’re Supposed to Be

  1. GlenysO says:

    Thanks, glad you liked! I have not met Isabel but love her work. There are several other RDs who practice HAES/intuitive eating: Christy Harrison (blog and podcast); Julie Dillon (blog and podcast); The Moderation Movement in Australia has great FB posts ; my dear friend and podcast partner Aaron Flores at has a private practice in LA and blogs occasionally; Be Nourished has an online course ; Rebecca Scritchfield has a podcast These are only a few that came to mind, there are actually so many more! I also love some body image coaches: Summer Innanen (blog, podcast, e-books); Tiana the Fat Health Coach is someone I just found out about Really, there are so many of us HAES bloggers/practitioners/podcasters – once you find one you can usually find more!

  2. Kelsie says:

    I couldn’t possibly agree more! Have you read the book “Intuitive Eating”? Reading that book was the first time I had been introduced to the concept of allowing your body to settle into its natural weight. What a gorgeously control-free thought (and that’s coming from a total control freak!). I’ve actually lost about 10 pounds in the last year, since giving birth to my daughter and adopting a clean, active lifestyle. My family has been really worried about me, telling me I need to gain some weight! The truth is, I believe this is my body’s natural, intuitive weight. Before, I had struggled with eating disorders and even just eating obsession, and now I feel so nourished and carefree about the way I eat. I keep explaining to them – I’m much happier now! This is the way my body is responding to my healthy lifestyle – who am I to decide it’s wrong??

    Thanks for posting. I discovered your blog the other day and today I plan on listening to your podcast as well. 🙂 Your insights are lovely!

    • GlenysO says:

      Thank you so much Kelsie! Yes, Intuitive Eating is a fantastic book, and I base so much of my eating philosophy on that (I also love Ellyn Satter’s Eating competence model – I probably sway a little more that way in how I practice and in my own life – slightly different but similar ideas). Thank you so much for reading and listening – I hope you enjoy and comment often!

      • Kelsie says:

        I’ll check out Ellyn Satter’s eating competence model – thank you!! Absolutely.

        • GlenysO says:

          I recommend Secrets of Feeding A Healthy Family – working my way through that one again. Wonderful commonsense approach. So then people have to approaches to pick from – Intuitive Eating and Eating Competence. So many wonderful ways to not diet!

          • Kelsie says:

            That will be a great read for me, since my blog is focused on healthy family living. Thanks Glenys! About to go on a walk with my daughter and listen to your podcast.

  3. laratollin says:

    I couldn’t agree more with this blog!!! Nicely written, I love it! It is so true that we always have this urgency to lose our weight and sometimes no matter how hard we try, we just can’t get there. It’s difficult and as you said it’s not for everyone. Some people just don’t understand that we are not all build the same way and that some people lose weight without any effort and some people can’t lose it at all no matter how hard they try. I think that as long as you are happy and comfortable in your body you shouldn’t think of weight. Being who you are and being happy as you are is the only right thing. Nobody has time for stressing about those extra kilos.

    • Very well said!Let’s just be happy that’s all that matters.Stop depriving nor restricting yourself because you wanna be as fit as the Models! Let’s be proud of Our own body!

      • laratollin says:

        Exactly! We shpuld love ourselves the way we are. We would be a dull race if we were all the same. I think that people that want to look like models don’t like their body and that is sad because most models represent an unhealthy image..

        • GlenysO says:

          I would say that models typically represent only one body type, which is very slim. I’m not sure about unhealthy, as I remain convinced we cannot diagnose someone’s health by their size, thin or fat. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we saw a fantastic range of body sizes and shapes in the modeling community, from very slim all the way to very fat, with all sizes in between represented? Then we wouldn’t have to aspire to look like models since we already would look like models!

          • laratollin says:

            Exactly!! I agree with you. I have heard that some are already trying to pursue other sizes into modeling and I hope that that is true and that the indistry really is changing. I know that curves are welcomed more and more and I hope that some day I will see a fashion show with variety of models will walk on that runway

  4. CoffeeFox says:

    perfect timing for me to read that! thank you! I really need to get my head straight and STOP comparing myself to myself 20 or 10 years ago, or to much younger athlete friends, or to anybody actually 🙂
    your note helped a lot

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  6. jodietitian says:

    A recovering patient once said something so wise, it stuck with me and I have repeated it often: “It finally dawned on me….why should I care about the force of gravity on my body????” (which is pretty much all a scale can tell you!)

    I loved what you said about life being short……and spending your precious time and energy on what is important in life (having energy to do fun things, very important if you ask me! you need enough food for that!). Anyway, loved this post!

  7. How lovely to read this today! I just posted a blurb about Geneen Roth’s book- which i just RE read, for reasons i’m sure you are familiar with. Funny things happen after age 40, suddenly the weight I maintained from 30-39 is looking really great, if only i thought so at the time! lol! I look forward to reading more of your posts. thank you!

  8. Nicole Geurin, MPH, RD says:

    As always, thank you for your real, honest and thoughtful post! I will be sharing with my clients.

  9. Dee Kay says:

    Reblogged this on This is the nth time that I have tried to lose weight and commented:
    I love this post so much.

  10. Nice article. Thanks

  11. wura says:

    I couldn’t read to finish, but dieting lasts only 3 Years???!!

    • GlenysO says:

      Yes, typical weight loss results last only 3 years, at which point the weight usually has been at least partially regained. That result is even more dramatic by five years. The science is solid on this. Dieting behavior of course may last much longer.

  12. Thank you so much for this post. It’s so important for people to realise you don’t need to be stick thin to be happy. Life is about enjoyment rather than wasting time being miserable because of your diet.

  13. amommasview says:

    Now this is a fantastic approach! So glad I came over here to read this post especially!

  14. That was great information…Even I am a Dietician it enhanced my knowledge more…Great Going…ALL THE BEST

  15. Sarah says:

    This is a fantastic post and one I have been needing to read! Thank you.

  16. Dear Glenys, I’m a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist working with eating disorders and promoting Intuitive Eating in Russia. It’s a brilliant text and I hope you would write a book one day. Your texts I read regularly give me so much inspiration. Thank you for your work. Sincerely yours, Svetlana Bronnikova, PhD.

  17. Great post, Glenys! I love the bulldog/greyhound example! And, I’d like to add my name to the list of HAES dietitians.

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